My cellphone contract was up and my Iphone 6 was paid in full. Happy for a reduction in my bill for a while, I was in no hurry to upgrade. Well, maybe my children were…but not me.
After a phone call from my local cellular salesman and a deal I could not pass up, however, I was walking out of the store with a brand new Iphone 7. Okay, yes, I couldn’t let my children have a better phone than me!
Well, along with a new phone, you suddenly realize all the things you have to do over, including making sure all of your apps are reinstalled and purchasing a new case.
For my past birthday, I had received the most awesome cellphone case for my Iphone 6. Specially ordered and no longer available, I was at a loss for what I what find that would represent “me” like that one had. After shopping around, not one case appealed to my sense of taste and style.
Deciding to purchase an inexpensive case to “tide me over”, it wasn’t until I was looking through Facebook and saw a post from a travel group that I belonged to. It was about an Iphone case and I knew instantly, this was the case for me!
As a flight attendant and avid traveler, my most valued possession is my passport. I love looking through my stamps and visas and remembering all of the places and experiences I have had over the years.
This case, puts these memories in the palm of my hand.
It was so easy to do! Choose your Iphone or Galaxy case size and style (regular or tough case) and start adding your stamps. Most country’s passport stamps are available (a couple of mine were not…Rome, Edinburgh) and each can be customized with the dates of your orginal stamps and placed on the case.
That’s it…place your order and wait patiently (or try to) for it to arrive. Your friends will be so jealous!
You want to vacation on a sailboat. To prepare, you will:
A) Read this blog post
B) Watch the movie “Captain Ron”
C) Sing a few verses of the Gilligan’s Island theme song…”Just sit right back and you’ll hear a tale, a tale of a fateful trip…”
D) All of the above
For as long as I can remember, my husband and I dreamed of vacationing on a sailboat. Long before surfing the internet was commonplace, I remember browsing ads in the back of magazines and sending away for information on sailboat charters. Sadly, it never seemed to be the right time or there never was anyone that we thought we could spend a week in tight quarters with and that had the money to spend on this type of vacation.
This past summer, while deciding on a vacation locale, I came across a VRBO listing for a 48 foot sailboat. The boat could be rented from St. Lucia, with or without a captain. Being that it was my husband’s 50th birthday and we would be vacationing during this time period, I thought that it would be worth the extra money to surprise him with his dream vacation!
After contacting the owner of the boat, he confirmed that the dates we were requesting were available. Instead of trying to surprise my husband, after all, I decided to include him in the decision making. We discussed the idea of renting the boat and came to the conclusion that taking the boat out for a week would constitute a nice family vacation, especially since my oldest son would be leaving soon for college.
Deposits were paid and plans were begun. Since we had never done this, I solicited advice from coworkers and friends about life on a boat.
The first order of business was securing the captain. Being the responsibility of the owner, we were hoping that whoever was hired was going to be a friendly, outgoing individual…someone we would not mind sharing our vacation with. A few days later, we received an email from the owner informing us that he had two particular individuals in mind to captain the boat. Two individuals…meaning…a captain and his wife. We were taken aback. After all, we were required to pay the captain’s daily rate as well as provide three meals a day. The boat had four cabins and slept 8…quarters were already going to be tight. Would we be responsible for paying and feeding his wife as well?
Thinking about this situation, we did not respond right away to the email. After consulting with my husband, and still having reservations, we sent a response with a few inquiries. The owner assured us that we would only be responsible for paying the captain, although his wife was capable of sailing the boat and would assist. He said that he felt much better about two people being in charge of the boat. Since he seemed pretty adamant about hiring these two individuals, my next question concerned the meal arrangements. He responded with a compromise of sorts. The captain’s wife would be responsible for meals for everyone on the first day. Additionally, the captain would do some fishing and then the fish, if any, could be used for our meals on other days. I was not exactly happy with this arrangement, knowing that I did not want to spend a lot of time cooking and also aware that food on most islands is not cheap. We were also cautious of one additional person using our limited space and resources; however, our departure date was drawing near and we were anxious to have the plans finalized, so we reluctantly agreed.
One question we had for the owner concerned provisioning. We were instructed to purchase some snacks and meal items for 2-3 days however, we were assured that we would have the opportunity to buy meats and vegetables daily. I admit…I am a bit of a planner and do not like to get caught unprepared. I did quite a bit of shopping at my local grocery warehouse prior to the trip and purchased dry goods, snacks and powdered drinks that were packed in a duffle bag and checked as luggage. We have three growing boys who are constantly hungry…ensuring that we had things for them to snack on was a necessity. I planned for an entire weeks’ worth of meals minus the two days which we planned to eat out.
Another question concerned an itinerary. Having no idea of the distances from island to island, we inquired as to what the best places to travel were. We were instructed to consult with the captain when we arrived; however, places that were suggested to me by the owner were Bequia, Tobago Cays, Petit Martinique and Mayreau.
Finally, our departure day arrived. We started our trip with a night in St. Lucia, at a villa near Rodney Bay. We had a great dinner and spent some time completing our grocery shopping.
The next day, we met our captain and his wife at Marigot Bay. They were a very lovely French couple, however, there was a bit of a language barrier. Assured by the owner that they both spoke English very well, we were a little surprised to find that the captain did not speak much English at all. His wife became the communicator and translator; however, there was much that was lost due to the language barrier. This made planning a little more difficult.
After lunch, we sat down with them and were given a basic itinerary. It seemed that they had done this many times and were set on how they approached the trip. Confident that they were aware of the best way to do this trip, we decided to take their suggestions. We began our sail and stopped for the night, about an hour and a half later, between the Piton Mountains on the western coast of St. Lucia. Everyone was excited to be on the boat and it was a beautiful setting, complete with an amazing rainbow!
The next day started early and much to our surprise was an extremely hard and rough eight hour sail from St. Lucia to St. Vincent, Grenadines. We were not really expecting this long of a trip and certainly not the kind of rough seas that we experienced. This is the first time in my entire life that I have ever felt seasick…it was pouring rain the whole time and going up on deck was not much of an option. It was hot and stuffy inside the cabin and we weren’t able to move around much due to the motion of the boat. My vision of lounging on the deck, in the sun, as we glided by the islands was not meant to be.
It was such a relief to finally pull into Cumberland Bay. We were happy to be out of the rough water, but our elation was short lived. Expecting a place that we could get off of the boat and do some shopping or have dinner, this was not quite what we expected. We were told that this was the only place available to dock for the night.
Nestled at the foot of rain-forested mountains, this village reminded me of Africa…quite primitive. It continued to rain and we did not get off of the boat…there really wasn’t anything there except for a few buildings and houses. No stores, no restaurants. Knowing that there was probably no official sewer system, we were very hesitant to allow our children to swim. There really was nothing to do, except recuperate from the long journey, prepare for dinner and combat the swarms of flies that descended upon us. The only bright spot was that our captain used to be a head waiter and chef in Monaco, France. We caught a very large mahi-mahi on the way to Cumberland Bay that day and he cooked it up for us that evening.
The next morning, we headed out of Cumberland Bay and arrived in Bequia about three hours later. Of course, it was still raining and seas were still quite rough. After attending to customs and immigration formalities and paying docking fees, I was finally able to wander around the town. We did some grocery and souvenir shopping and took lots of pictures. After having a nice dinner at a local restaurant, we retired for the evening.
The Tobago Cays were next on our agenda…again, about a three hour sail.
The Tobago Cays were beautiful, but again, quite primitive. No town to walk around…there was one island right near us that had a restaurant, but, the captain’s wife insisted that because it was slow season, it would be closed. We were nowhere near enough to see whether this was true. The waters were a vibrant, clear, turquoise and we swam to a small island where we walked around and saw iguanas and tortoises. There were lots of starfish and sea turtles swimming all around us.
The highlight for the boys was that in the distance, they spotted Captain Jack’s island (where he and Elizabeth got drunk on rum), from the movie, Pirates of the Caribbean…Petit Tabac. The low point for us all was that we were informed that our main water tank was empty and that our reserve was either not working or empty (language barrier) and that we would have no water for showering until we arrived back in Bequia the next day. And I thought that the only thing I was going to have to worry about was drying and curling my hair!
We left early the next morning and arrived back in Bequia around ten o’clock. Again, a visit to the immigration and customs office was in order as well as a quick trip to the grocery store for much needed supplies. We spent most of the day swimming and enjoying the sunshine. A couple of times, I headed to shore for some souvenir shopping and to go to their fabulous bakery…there is nothing like fresh bread!!!
That evening, a couple of locals recommended the restaurant L’Auberge to us. As we had already eaten a lot of fish, we were really craving something different and we were told they had a varied and inexpensive menu. When we walked in, I should have been clued in to the fact that there was a chair marked with Anthony Bourdain’s name and another with Robert DeNiro’s! My sons and I arrived first and after a quick glance at the menu, realized that it was really, fish, fish and more fish…and quite expensive! With a quick exit and a trip across the harbor, we arrived at Mac’s Pizzeria! Surly waitress, but amazing pizza!
Sadly, the next day, we had to leave beautiful Bequia and head back to Cumberland Bay, again being told that it was the only mooring point available. Although we knew that we had to arrive before sunset, we insisted that we leave later in the morning so that I could run a couple of errands in town before leaving and to not have so much time in the wilds!
Cumberland Bay was as we left it…rainy. We had hoped we could go ashore to a waterfall that was about a 20 minute hike from the bay, but with the rain, we decided that it would probably not be enjoyable. We did get to do some souvenir shopping when some of the locals brought their wares to the boat.
An early departure was definitely a must the next day… I even paid someone extra to arise early and unmoor us at 5 o’clock, the next morning. We wanted to get the eight hour sail out of the way and get back to civilization!
When we arrived at Marigot Bay later that day, we docked at the marina. Since we were guests of the marina, moored on the dock, we able to freely leave the boat and enjoy the Capella resort. The resort’s pool was beautiful and it was nice to be away from the boat and have some private family time.
Our last night was spent having a nice dinner and trying to get some sleep.
Early the next morning, we were up and dressed and headed into Castries to complete some errands and grab lunch. We then headed out towards the airport, an hour and a half drive from Castries. Since we made better time and arrived a little early, we drove around Vieux Fort and Laborie and checked out the sights and beaches in this area, before taking out flight back to Atlanta.
There were many things that we enjoyed about this vacation, but there were many more things that we would have changed.
This rental was done through VRBO and although we have used VRBO many times previously for apartments, condos and villas, we have never sailed and never rented a boat for a week…a very long time to be in such a confined space. More research should have been done on the subject rather than jumping right in, such as, what ports of call there would be and how long of a sail between dockings. Not realizing that an eight hour sail was would we would endure to get to the first point in the Grenadines, maybe we would have opted for a shorter stay on the boat and stayed nearer to St. Lucia, or maybe gone over to Martinique, which was only a four hour sail. Bequia and the Tobago Cays were certainly worth visiting, however, I think sailing to these destinations from Grenada would be a more suitable alternative. Better yet, for our first foray into sailing, we probably should have booked through a charter company.
Mildew and mold on my son’s pillow
The boat was not in the best condition. There was no way of knowing this ahead of time because there were no reviews on VRBO. The gaskets on some of the portholes were not in great condition and leaked. The dinghy was secured right over the overhead portholes over our cabin, so when it was not in the water, we could not open those portholes for ventilation. Our beds were always damp and after my oldest son awakened with a swollen face, we discovered that the pillows were moldy and mildewed and he was having a reaction (the captain’s wife had the same thing happen to her a couple of days later). We quit sleeping on the pillows, but there was never a way to get our bedding completely dry, especially when it seemed to be always raining outside. There appeared to be miscellaneous leaks throughout the boat. We even noticed that some of our clothing hanging in the closet was damp, even when we had never worn them.
Additionally, there should have been spare bedding and more towels for drying off after showers. One towel for each of us for an entire week did not seem very sanitary. Thankfully, I had to foresight to bring loofahs and body wash for each of us for bathing. I expected the beach towels that I brought to be smelly after a few days of drying off salt water and indeed they were. The only opportunity to do laundry was in Bequia and we definitely did not want to spend our limited time there doing laundry. We didn’t go into this thinking that this was going to be a luxury cruise, but I do not think that with the amount of money that was spent, that it was going to be more like glorified camping.
The most important aspect of this vacation that I would have changed was that I would have insisted that the captain speak excellent English. The owner of the boat really wanted to use this particular captain and his wife for this week of sailing. Although he claimed that their English was very good, we found otherwise. I understand that he was more comfortable having two people skippering the boat and after watching them work together to sail this boat in the rough seas for eight hours straight, I can understand the helpfulness of having an additional pair of hands on deck. The reality was that although they were very nice, his English was almost nonexistent. The wife’s English was much better; however, I discovered that I had to interact with the customs and immigrations officials because much of the time, she did not understand them and they would get very upset with her. After reading up on this procedure once we returned, I found that paperwork is usually completed by the captain, alone. Instead of swimming or relaxing after the long sail, I was accompanying the wife to attend to the formalities, thus taking valuable time away from my vacation.
There were many things that were not communicated with us…it may have been because they just didn’t have the words or maybe because in their culture, they just didn’t deem it necessary. Or…maybe they felt that they were in charge. We were too new to the game and frankly too inexperienced to realize that there were more options available than were given to us. It never felt like our opinions were solicited on where we wanted to go or what we wanted to do…granted, we left a lot to them because we felt that they were the experts and would do what we requested and what was in our best interests. It was very frustrating when I mentioned Tobago Cays to the captain’s wife and she kept insisting that it would be too far and that we should stay in Bequia. I do understand a bit of French and overheard the captain and his wife arguing about Tobago Cay a couple of times. The captain was in favor of Tobago Cays, she wasn’t…I guess he won that argument, because we ended up in Tobago Cays. Later, while reading a tourism book for the Grenadines, I also found that there were other ports that we could have docked at rather than Cumberland Bay. We are not sure if they were just comfortable with this location, but we really wish that we would have been given other choices.
Another important miscommunication…being told that we would be able to purchase meats and vegetables daily. Obviously, the owner knows nothing of Cumberland Bay and its lack of modern conveniences. Thankfully, we had purchased more than we were told while in St. Lucia.
There was also much hesitation about there being an additional person on the boat…on our vacation…but in the end, there were two. We should have not relented to the owner. We came to resent having to prepare additional meals every day, in a very hot and stuffy galley. Fixing breakfast is not something that is important to us…usually a breakfast bar or a banana is sufficient. Having to arise very early, before setting sail, since it was too hard to cook when the boat was moving was not much fun, but we felt we had to do it for them.
We also were very upset about the water situation. Since my children are notorious for extremely long showers at home, they were given detailed instructions on how to wet down their bodies, shut off the water, lather up and then rinse quickly. However, we soon noticed that every time the captain and his wife exited the water, they were rinsing off extensively. After arriving in Tobago Cays, we were informed of the water situation. Due to the language barrier (once again), we were never certain whether the spare tank was not working or whether both tanks had been used. I did overhear the wife saying to the captain, in French, that because there were seven people on board, that was the reason that we had run short of water. It would seem that the captain would keep abreast of the water levels onboard. Certainly, if there are more people than usual, shouldn’t the tanks have been checked prior to leaving Bequia? And, to add insult to injury, because we arrived back in Bequia on a Sunday, we were required to pay quite a bit extra to resupply the tanks.
Overall, we accept it for the adventure that it was. We visited some places in the world that we had never been, got some cool stamps in our passports, met some lovely people and marked one more thing off of our bucket list…vacationing on a sailboat.
Our advice to anyone who had never sailed before…whether looking to rent a privately owned sailboat or from a charter company…do your homework.
Deciding where to go and what to do is of the utmost importance in whether or not you will get what you want out of that experience. Deciding whether to travel alone or with a partner or group is an even bigger task.
While in Koh Samui, Thailand, a young gentleman from Switzerland, introduced himself to me one evening. Alex and I began a conversation that led me to find that he was traveling alone…until April. I was so curious, as to what his travel plans were for the coming months and what he had already experienced, that we talked for almost two hours. Although this year, I had made the decision to travel with others, I suddenly found that I was very excited for Alex but actually also a little jealous.
Last year, after my initial travel arrangements had fallen through, I decided to proceed with my plan to visit Thailand anyway…alone. Nervous as I was to travel halfway around the world by myself, I pushed forward and found that the experience of traveling by oneself is actually quite different than I expected. Certainly, on layovers, I’ve taken the train to other cities and wandered by myself, knowing that my crew members or my employing airline was a phone call away if I ever needed help. That knowledge gives one a great feeling of security. Here, I knew no one. Well, almost no one…
Amazingly, October seems to be a popular month for flight attendants to travel to Thailand. While in the Narita airport, I ran into two of my friends who were also traveling to Bangkok. Plans were made to keep in touch and to get together for dinner or sightseeing. Another flight attendant and a friend were traveling on the same flight, but traveling to the south of Thailand. We were able to meet up one night in Koh Phi Phi, a week later.
After a couple of days of settling in, though, what I found that I loved (more than the elaborate temples, more than the delicious food, more than the Chang Beer) was that each morning, I made the decisions…what time I would wake each morning, what to eat for breakfast, where to go, what to see, how long I stayed. I could meet up with friends…or not. What I enjoyed most, though, was that my itinerary was open. If I wanted to go somewhere else, booking a last minute plane, train or bus ticket, was easy. And that’s just what I did.
After five nights in Bangkok, I decided that I wanted to head south. Booking a ticket the night before, I headed to the airport and boarded a flight to Phuket. Knowing virtually nothing about the area, I headed to the ferry terminal, booked a hotel while en route to Koh Phi Phi and arrived an hour and a half later. Deciding to stay for three days, I then bought a ferry ticket back to Phuket and spent a couple of days in the Patong Beach area, before heading back to Bangkok.
What I remember most about traveling to these places was the spontaneity of it all. It was such an adventure and I had no preconceived notion of what to expect or what I was going to do. Walking along the beach one day, I instantaneously decided to hire a longtail boat for a snorkeling adventure. Later, on another walk, I signed up to go diving the next day. Another evening, I decided to have dinner with a group of divers that I met. Getting to my room in Phuket and spotting a flyer, I marched downstairs to the front desk immediately and booked a tour which included elephant trekking, whitewater rafting, ziplining, waterfall hiking and a visit to a monkey temple. The group of fun-loving Australians that I met on this tour insisted that they be my dinner companions that evening…and I obliged!
The exuberance that I felt after my trip was over was indescribable! Wanting to recreate it, I almost immediately began to research a trip for the following year. Deciding that since I had visited the Andaman Sea on this trip, I was going to venture over to the Gulf of Thailand and check out the islands there. Another thing I wanted to do was to hop over to Cambodia. Visiting Angkor Wat had been a dream of mine for a very long time.
Hearing of my plans, many of my friends, expressed interested in traveling with me, however, I plodded forward and decided to leave things open for the time being. A few months prior to my departure, I decided to ask a friend that I’ve known for many years, to travel with me. Slowly, I began thinking of what my general itinerary would be. Again, I wanted to leave things open and book tickets at the last minute, and I decided that two people should still be able to make last minute plans as there were many options for travel and only one room was required. Cambodia would still take a bit of planning since visas were required and tour guides would need to be hired. So, I decided Cambodia would be on the program first and then the relaxing beach vacation for the second half.
About a month prior to departure, I received a text from my friend asking if I minded that another flight attendant travel with us. Even though I knew that it would present a few problems with the hotels and travel, I agreed. The more the merrier, right? I soon realized that since we were arriving in Thailand on a major holiday weekend, getting three people both around the country and out of the country was going to take airline reservations made in advance. Additionally, hotel reservations were going to have to be made prior because of the holiday and because some hotels do not have triple rooms nor do some allow three people in a room.
Embarking on the many plans that now had to be made was a monumental task. I had to research flights for Cambodia and within Thailand. I had to research hotels, spending countless hours trying to find places that were convenient to dining and shopping and other activities and that would accept three people within a room or that had triple rooms. My “easy going” vacation was no more. My plan, to island hop from Koh Tao to Koh Samui, was shot down, as I was told that it would be easier if we didn’t have to keep unpacking and repacking. Due to airline reservations, Cambodia would have to be at the end of our vacation. And, because I had been there before and knew so many people who had traveled to this region, I had the knowledge and the contacts to get information required to make the arrangements…I, halfheartedly, became the tour guide.
After much groundwork, a strict itinerary was finally in place. An itinerary that included taking a ferry at five o’clock in the morning in order to make a flight from Surat Thani to Cambodia. An itinerary that now included two hotel rooms because hotels that accommodated three people and had the amenities that we wanted, were few and far between. Adding a bed, to a room meant for two, was almost as much as an additional room, not to mention the crowding factor. Because I had done all of the planning, it was very stressful for me, as I knew that all of the stars were having to line up in order for us to be where we needed to be, when we needed to be there. Please, I prayed, let there be no bad weather to upset the ferry schedule!
Although I missed the adventurous, easygoing aspect of traveling alone, there were good parts of this trip, as well. One benefit was the safety factor. There is always safety in numbers and someone else to count on if illness sets in. Another, is that there are activities that are more enjoyable, knowing from the beginning, that you will have companions to share it with. Overall, I enjoyed myself, but there was a great deal that I learned on this trip that I will take into consideration in the future.
Here are some questions to ask and suggestions you should ponder when deciding to travel with others:
First, how well do you know the other people traveling with you? When spending a few weeks with other people, you will learn a lot about them, if you didn’t know them well enough beforehand. Some things you will like and some things you won’t. Lots of patience is required.
For how long are you traveling? Spending a few days or one week with someone is very different than two or three.
Be sure that all know each other’s expectations of the trip. Does everyone want to do the same kinds of activities? Will everyone share the responsibility of making reservations for activities once at the destination? Is everyone okay with splitting up at times to do their own thing?
Don’t compromise your plans. If you want to go island hopping…go. Make sure that everyone is aware of the plan from the beginning, but, by all means, if that means taking a side trip by yourself for a few days, do it.
How will you keep in touch with each other when not together? Does the country you are visiting sell sim cards for your phone and do you have a phone that will work with that country’s sim cards and plans? Don’t count on being together and sharing one phone. Even though you think you won’t use the sim card and plan, buy it.
Be mindful of each other’s time. When out touring together, make sure that you are not off shopping when others are waiting for you with the tour guide to continue on. Keep each other posted of your whereabouts, arrivals and departures, when not together. Check your phone occasionally.
Next, when booking airline reservations, unless you are traveling with family members, everyone should book their own reservation. For the sake of convenience, all of us were booked on the same reservation, on all legs of this trip. It later dawned on me that if the person who had booked the tickets was unable to travel for any reason, the others would not be able to travel as well, as the credit card holder had to be present with valid id and the credit card used for booking. Additionally, when check in was required, this fell to the person who booked the reservation. Having to fill in information that had to be collected for the other travelers (passport information, addresses, phone numbers) takes a great deal more time than if each traveler had done it themselves.
Additionally, things won’t always go as planned. Have Plan B and Plan C…and even Plan D, readily available.
Lastly, involve everyone in the planning of the trip. Just because someone says, “Whatever you decide is fine with me”, doesn’t mean that they really think that. Having someone else research the area, whether for hotels, activities and dining options. Have others participate in making the airline, hotel and tour reservations. He or she will be less critical of the outcome if things were not exactly as expected and may be less likely to express their displeasure, saving hurt feelings in the end.
As for my future travel plans, I most definitely think I will travel with other people again, outside of my family, for this type and length of a trip. Although not entirely what I expected, there were good times and good memories.
However…that being said…if I am given the opportunity to travel solo again…I will take it! There is nothing like being at the helm of your adventure and sometimes throwing caution to the wind. You’ll find that you never know what you might encounter!
As a flight attendant and avid traveler, my most valued possession is my passport. I love looking through my stamps and visas and remembering all of the places and experiences I have had over the years.
